To join or not to join

St. Cyprian said that we can't have God as our Father if we don't have the church as our mother. It seems, however, that we live in an age in which people are less inclined to become church members—even when they are happy to have some church associations (see "Loose connections"). Perhaps it's the "mother" aspect that worries people—they don't want the church to act like a mother, telling them what to do. They'd prefer to keep the church as a casual friend from which they can walk away at any time.

This desire to associate without joining the church seems especially true of people in their twenties and thirties. Their resistance to church membership may be part and parcel of a tendency to postpone major life commitments, like vocation, marriage and family—a tendency that may be an understandable response to economic uncertainties and the highly mobile nature of modern life.

Of course, the church has always had to deal with various levels of commitment. The church has the pastoral challenge of accepting people where they are while calling them to greater levels of commitment to the kingdom of God.