On forgiveness and moving on

A generally excellent sermon I heard on Sunday (sadly not on
th’Interweb yet) made an interesting point that stuck with me, quoting
from Colossians 3:13
(“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have
against one another”). The preacher said that forgiveness deals with the
problem; bearing with one another is what you do until the problem is
dealt with.

And that makes a lot of sense. God did not merely move on from the
problem of sin, or sweep it under the carpet, or pretend it wasn’t
really a problem any more. He did something about it, something painful
and costly which dealt with the problem. Forgiveness has a point of
resolution to it.

Now consider a situation where one person declares to others that they need to “forgive and move on” - forgive him and move on, that is.