A generally excellent sermon I heard on Sunday (sadly not on
th’Interweb yet) made an interesting point that stuck with me, quoting
from Colossians 3:13
(“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have
against one another”). The preacher said that forgiveness deals with the
problem; bearing with one another is what you do until the problem is
dealt with.

And that makes a lot of sense. God did not merely move on from the
problem of sin, or sweep it under the carpet, or pretend it wasn’t
really a problem any more. He did something about it, something painful
and costly which dealt with the problem. Forgiveness has a point of
resolution to it.

Now consider a situation where one person declares to others that they need to “forgive and move on” - forgive him and move on, that is.

If the above understanding of forgiveness is right, then I wonder if such an attitude actually denies
others the opportunity to exercise forgiveness, because it shuts down
avenues for dealing with the problem. Instead, it communicates, “I don’t
want us to be talking about this any more. Your thoughts and feelings
on the situation are now your problem, not our problem. Can talk
about something else instead?” In that sense, “you need to forgive me”
is almost a non-apology apology: “I’m sorry that you feel that way.”
(Subtext: get over it.)

So what they want is the “move on”, but they’re throwing the “forgive” in there so it sounds a bit more Christian.

I remember my pastor in Japan pointing out that forgiveness always
brings restored relationships. That was the difference between Judas and
Peter - both betrayed Jesus, but Peter’s acceptance of forgiveness lead
to a restored relationship. How can there be a restored relationship if
there is no opportunity to fix a problem; how then can there
be forgiveness?

I suspect there are a lot of people out there who are having to be very, very good at “bearing with one another,” because they’ve never really had the chance to “forgive whatever grievances you may have.”

Originally posted at Simon Cozens's blog.

Simon Cozens

Simon Cozens is a missionary in Japan. His blog is part of the CCblogs network.

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