Our weak prayer lives

July 19, 2010

I talk a lot about prayer in my life, and you may talk a good deal about
prayer in yours. But let’s be honest: we’re pretty lousy at praying, at
least in the fullest sense of the term. I don’t mean this as an
indictment of some rich spirituality that is in us. Our prayer lives are
just so far from what they could be.

The other day my cell phone
buzzed in the next room during some private prayer time. I had to make a
decision: should I detour out of my reflective zone and peek at it? Our
19-year-old daughter is on the road; maybe something happened. Even if I
found out the text wasn’t from her, I doubt I would have been able to
get out of my head the person who did send it. And avoiding peeking at
the phone altogether was no perfect answer either—the vibrating buzz
wouldn’t leave my head. Its echo would only accelerate my conversation
with God, allowing me to more quickly scoot in and skim the message. Oh,
those distractions.

Then there are the conversations we have
with ourselves during prayer. These little visits with our own minds
aren’t irrelevant; every conversation with another person has a
self-reflective component. I have no illusion that there is such a thing
as pure, unadulterated conversation with God.

So what is in that little visit with ourselves we have inside our head during prayer? Are
you sure you are doing this right? Is this little item really worth
God’s attention? Don’t you think you’re off on the balance between
listening and speaking? This sounds like a whole lot of chatter on your

In the early months of marriage, my wife and I tried
praying out loud together each night. I think we spent more energy
privately sizing up the other’s grammar, language and perspective than
we did zeroing in on God. These sorts of mind games that are internal to
prayer seem unavoidable. But are they prayer at its best?

Luther made a connection between prayer and his dog’s behavior in the
presence of meat: “If I could only pray the way this dog watches meat.
All his thoughts are concentrated on the piece of meat. Otherwise he has
no thought, wish, or hope.” Our dog is the same. But more than just a
focus to her eyes, there is an insatiable quality to her infatuation
with meat. Savoring would not be the word that connects Murphy and meat.
I sense no appreciation for the previous bite, only desperation.

maybe a dog isn’t a very good image for praying—at least not for those
of us who desire more than just a hunger for God. I wouldn’t mind being
changed from the inside out as well, and having the Holy Spirit take up
residence within me. Wouldn’t that be an awesome gift?

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No, there probably is no pure, unadulterated conversation with God. In fact, for me, I can have no pure, unadulterated conversation with anyone else, not even myself, that is, if such a discription of conversation means having no distractions. I have learned to add the distraction to my prayer. For this is the life God has given me. Therefore, when I am meditating, and my mind is scattered, I offer up the disultoriness of my mind to God, because God can sort these things out, since the Holy Spirit, according to Paul, initiates prayer in us and groans with us in connection with God's mind.

Also, gratitude may not be fully expressed in prayer, but more in what we do in conjunction with and response to what we have been praying. For instance, I find myself more fully able, for my own satisfaction anyway, to express gratitude for my food after I have eaten than before, because there is a sensory connection that underscores the fullness of food experienced in taste and fellowship. That is not to say, that I am not thankful before eating, but it is a more palpable sense of appreciation after having settled my mind from its distraction from hunger. Still, it leads me also to be thankful in my hunger, with all its distractions, since these things lead me toward seeking my need in God through Christ.

Therefore, pure and unadulterated life may be a good ideal, but the truth is that we live on a lower plane that is blessed through the presence of God through divine initiation of fellowship.

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