The authors of Spiritual Companioning suggest a way forward for those disenchanted with polite, shallow church relationships.
At age 29 I cried out to an empty universe in the first authentic prayer of my life: "God, if you are, I need help!" The help came in ways I couldn't imagine.
In philosophy and practice, spiritual direction suggests that the individual self is insufficient as a locus of meaning. No one can "do" spiritual direction alone.
Until I encountered spiritual direction, my prayer life was filled almost entirely with words.