The film The Kids Are All Right offers a bittersweet
portrayal of changes that sweep through a family after two teenagers,
the children of a lesbian couple, meet the sperm donor who is their
biological father. The donor begins to win their hearts, and he is
about to claim some kind of role in the family until he has an affair
with one of their mothers.
Two moments in the film point to
important questions about the nature of family. In one scene, the
teenage daughter expresses her frustration at having to do everything
"right." She is a straight-As, all around good kid, and she reveals
that she has maintained this flawless image so that her mother can show
the world her "perfect lesbian family." Those last three words are
delivered with such vitriol that both mother and daughter are
devastated by their implications. As the family has struggled to keep
up appearances, they may have lost sight of unconditional love.
the second incident, the sperm donor is kicked out of the house, with
one of the mothers delivering this judgment: he is nothing but an
"interloper" in their lives.
If we are to believe, as the film asks us to believe, that the kids are all right, then we also have to agree with this judgment.