Being and doing
Whatâ€™s in a religious identity?
When Passover comes around, I sometimes remark to friends that I must be the only Christian in the world who participates in three or four seders a year. Even active Jews donâ€™t usually attend that many. Why would they, after all, unless theyâ€™re leading them, as my wife, a rabbi, often does. I am usually sitting beside her. I am there looking after our toddler, but also as something of a rebbetzman.
Rebbetzin is the name often given to the rabbiâ€™s wife in traditional Jewish communities. It is a transliterated Yiddish word roughly equivalent to â€śrebbeâ€™s female,â€ť like â€śpastorâ€™s wifeâ€ť in some Christian traditions. In progressive communities like ours, rebbetzman is used as a tongue-in-cheek equivalent to describe guys like me. Not that most rebbetzmen are goys; they certainly arenâ€™t.
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