Some years ago, as the pastor of an inner-city, blue-collar
congregation, I noted that whenever a couple in our congregation was
reputed to be having marital trouble, the most frequent question was,
"Have they had counseling?"
If the answer was yes, then the usual
response was, "Well, then maybe they ought to get a divorce." The
implication? Counseling is the last, best hope for preserving a
struggling marriage. I announced: "Our church is opposed to
divorce—unless you've had counseling. Then it's OK."
Eighty years ago marital counseling was a brand new profession.